Monday, May 26, 2014

The REAL Reason Katie Price's Husband Cheated On Her!

Another day, and another Katie Price-related story. One almost wonders if the three parties involved in this alleged affair are not in cahoots. Perhaps some bizarre cheating pact in order to keep their names in the media. If that was the plan then mission accomplished.

But let's just assume for a minute that Kieran Hayler really DID cheat on Katie Price, not many of us could blame him. I for one have a great deal of sympathy for the guy. It must be really hard to live in Katie's World after all.
The poor guy probably felt like a piece of meat being passed around for this photo, and that photo. Being talked about in her column, and not to mention being constantly compared to all of her exes and ex husbands. NO man wants that. It knocks their ego and makes them feel unwanted and cheap. So what to they do? They go off and have an affair with someone of more simple tastes, someone who 'understands them.' Someone who makes them feel like a man again. And since most people stray with those around them, because they are familiar and safe, it was no shock to see he started sleeping with her best friend. I am not saying this is right - not for a New York minute - all I'm saying is that it was no shock. But then, if I could see it why couldn't Katie?? Was her own massive ego blocking her immediate vision?

The answer is she didn't want to. Remember, this is a woman who professed not to know she was SIX months pregnant. So since biology obviously isn't her forte, there's no surprise why they were able to pull the wool over her eyes with their affair. Cheats love an easy target like that. Kieran and Jane must have thought they had it made, and since it went on for so long - and so often, allegedly - it seems they did.

I urge women like Katie not to become baby-making-machines for the sake of trying to keep a man. This will be the 5th child with the 3rd man that has betrayed her, not to mention the other ones in-between. She famously wrote in her column that her and Kieran never used contraception. What a terrible role model for any woman!! Let's hope he at least used some with his Mistress Jane.

I believe the best way ahead for them is to part. A 25 year-old male stripper enjoying a seven-month affair, shows that he doesn't want to be a husband, let alone a responsible parent and step-parent to five kids. It's not rocket science, and any woman who tries to force a man into purgatory like this will be deluding themselves, as well as be disappointed. That, or simply be prepared that he will have an affair for the rest of his married life. And if that's the case, then don't go calling the other woman a home-wrecker, because as a wife you need to take some responsibility too!

As your Infidelity Analyst, take it from me, I know what I'm talking about. Stay faithful out there folks!
Sarah xox

Thursday, July 18, 2013

The REAL reason Liam Gallagher cheated on Nicole Appleton

Well well well, so we learn this week that Liam Gallagher has been sewing his rock-seeds outside of his marriage to Nicole Appleton, but hey, this is no shocker for anyone with a pulse. Now I am NOT blaming his wife (although how come she never took his surname??) for his adulterous ways, as you CANNOT control a man when he chooses to cheat, but, I am blaming Nicole for being the type of 'put up and shut up' wife that becomes the perfect- willing-victim to be cheated upon. Nicole did her initial 'rock-monster' training with no other than the complex and confused Robbie Williams. He, and his many addictions and neuroses, will have started to erode her self-esteem to the core, so that by the time an even bigger egotistical rock-monster (not star, you notice) like Liam Gallagher came along, she was ripe for the picking.

She had a career that was just about good enough to make her interesting to him, yet was failing badly enough to know he would be able to manipulate her into the woman he needed her to be - i.e. his fixer, enabler, and all-out-Mother-figure. That's what men like him - with addictions that deep - will turn you into. That poor woman became so used to taking a back seat, being stoic, and giving her husband 'the space he needed' that she has without question lost her own sense of identity. At Wife School, this is a woman we would refer to as a Mousewife. Liam knew that she would make the perfect Mousewife, and that is why he married her. Simple. End of. He knew she would make perfect wife material and be his 'constant' yet ask no questions of him, thus allowing him to continue to carry out his cheating ways, as he had always done, and no doubt was always planning to do in the future.

I have heard it said that Nicole is boring to the point of dull. I do not know her, nor if it is true, however, if it is, then those two never should have married in the first place. She will never be enough for him, and he will look for his thrills elsewhere, men like him always do. And, I am beyond sure that Liam has a VERY LOW boredom threshold. I wish that Nicole could have seen his past behaviour as a predictor of the future (he already has other kids from various flings) but she didn't, and she fell for the hype he fed her.

I am hoping she will not continue to be a Mousewife any longer, that she will show him the door and close it FIRMLY behind him. As for the woman who has decided to make a living out of giving birth to his shagchild. Don't even get me going on HER. Some women get jobs, some women get pregnant. Shocking I say.

Sarah J. xox

Sunday, July 7, 2013

Open Letter to Nigella Lawson.

Dear Nigella
As Founder of Wife School, and as a 'Toxic Love Counsellor,' I have to write to you to offer you strength and support at this time. We have all seen the front page headlines today from your (hopefully soon to be ex) husband, and all I can say is what a pig he is, and what a coward. Nigella, I pray that you see this man for what he is. His actions are despicable. Not enough to physically abuse you in public, now he wants to verbally humiliate you too by 'saying he is divorcing you!' And, the CHEEK of him to expect you to 'stand up for his good name and character???!!' by defending his actions, and being 'oh-so-offended' that you didn't? My word. I've heard some things in my time, but this really takes the biscuit. Talk about a Narcissist personified!!

Nigella, I am beyond sure that you have tried your best to make this marriage work, as well as juggling your very successful career and bringing up your children too, and all while - in the early years - getting over the sad passing of your first husband John Diamond. They say that it takes 17 attacks on a woman before she leaves an abusive relationship. None of us know if there were more than this instance, but I am confident in thinking a control-freak like him will have made similar physical threats to you before. So I pray now that this is the time YOU walk away. It has been muted that you had an addiction to him, to this toxic love, and I know ALL about that, but you have to get past that now Nigella, and get on to a healthier path, without "MR. TOXIC himself" standing in your way. He will of course try to play his mind games on you, and play on your vulnerabilities now, and he will even try to use the headlines in the Mail on Sunday to win you back, but please stay strong and don't let him.

The Sisterhood are rooting for you all over the world. Please, don't go back to this life Nigella. This man is just a pig in smart shoes, as well as a bully, and now, as the world can see, a coward too.

Godbless, and wishing you strength to stand your ground,
Sarah xox

Friday, July 5, 2013

Hooray for (Mrs.) Hollywood

I just had to write this open letter to you Alexandra, to commend you on behalf of women everywhere. You have made the Sisterhood proud. You have acted with grace and dignity, in the face of what is a very public humiliation, thanks to your lousy cheating husband's antics.

Alexandra, at Wife School, I teach wives NOT to be a doormat to their husbands, or rather, not to be a 'Mousewife' as we call it at Wife School. You have proven that there's nothing Mousewife about you!! I can't imagine what made Paul do this, and how easily he was won over by Tinsletown, the TV world and Marcela, but I always say that losing a man is like a promotion. He wasn't good enough for you anyway and there is definitely something better around the corner! He's acted like a typical man, I mean, he didn't have to look far did he. His co-host? Oh please! He may only be a Baker - not a Chef - but my God it sure seems he carries the Chef-cheating-gene which I know so well.

I love that you're not just rolling over and taking this Alexandra, that you are filing for divorce and NOT taking him back. SO many wives, "Put Up and Shut Up," which is ridiculous as if you forgive a cheat he will do it again. That's guaranteed and proven to be true. I am positive this fling with his co-host won't last, and I bet he will be back to you with his tail (and other parts) between his legs before you know it. I'm hoping you will still stand your ground and tell him to 'bake off'!! He will try to win you back Alexandra, oh how he'll try, they always do. The chase will be his game. Especially when he can see how empowered, confident, and funny you have become without him. However, if you do end up divorcing him, I do urge that you never give up that brilliant surname. "Mrs. Hollywood" is priceless, and down the line it will act as a great reminder of a man who didn't realise which side his bread was buttered!

Stay strong, and stand your ground,

Sunday, June 23, 2013

School's IN for Summer.

Wives, I address all of you here today, and, rather urgently I might say.
The time of the year is upon us. The time to "catch a cheating husband." So, if you have any doubts, suspicions, or concerns, that YOUR spouse might be cheating on you, then you need to read and listen closely. If you care to of course.

This is the time of year when Mistresses yearn for their married lover who is off with the family on that 'dreaded' and 'oh-so-boring' summer vacation he says he doesn't want to be on. The time when he knows he has to somehow keep communication going with his Mistress-in-waiting, so that she will still be there waiting for him with open arms (and other parts) when he gets back from his intense family time. After all, the poor guy will need some release and some good times after being holed up with that wife he says he has "nothing in common with" (yawn!!). So wives, I urge you, watch your husband's movements this vacation trip. If he has to keep popping out to 'call the office,' be aware, and check his last numbers dialled. If he has to have some alone time, or needs to go play lengthy rounds of golf etc, whatever his reasons, if he needs to be alone then it could well be to have lengthy chats with his other woman (who, mark my words, will be giving him immense flack for being away with you and leaving her for so long.)

If you think I am making this up, don't. I had an affair with a married man once, who took the kids to Disneyland Paris on vacation. He feigned everything from conference calls to upset stomachs in order not to go on the rides with his wife and the twins, just so he could have the time to call me. Often. To tell me how bad a time he was having (yawn) but you get my point? Not fair to either woman, Wife nor Mistress!!

So wives, don't dig your heads in the sand this summer, as all you will get is sand in your hair. IF you have ANY doubts or concerns then sign up for my online Summer Wife School. Lets put those doubts to bed, once and for ALL!! Think of me as your factor 20, but for infidelity protection, not sun protection.

Sarah J, xox

Saturday, May 4, 2013

The 13-steps of the Mistresses Anonymous Support Group.

The 13-Steps and traditions of the “Mistresses Anonymous” Support and Recovery Program, as used my live "MA" meetings around the world.

1. You admit you have a problem: - That your life is out of control due to living as a Mistress in despair of her affair.
2. You fully commit to reclaiming your life from this skid-row of relationships, from this toxic love and toxic married man.
3. Set goals to stop all communication with your MM (married man) and throw away everything that reminds you of him.
4. Make a list of all the things you have given up to be with your MM during the affair.
5. Make inventory of all the lies he has told you and the empty promises he has made to you.
6. Make a list of all your family and friends you’ve lied to and come clean to them.
7. Attend MA meetings and find an MA sponsor to keep you strong.
8. Actively monitor your goals. Empower yourself. Work hard to regain your personal power, self-respect and self-esteem.
9. Practice being single. Go on a date a week with a single guy.
10. Fully commit to NEVER allow yourself to be second best again.
11. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and wallowing in misery.
12. Actively follow the 12 steps and share the MA message.
13. Enjoy a nice cold glass of step #13 (aka Chardonnay) you deserve it.

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

The 12-Steps of Wife School, teaching wives to act more like Mistresses.

The number one rule at Wife School is to act more like a mistress than a wife, i.e."Be Your Husband’s Mistress” Here are the official, simple, 12-steps to Affair-Proofing your Marriage!

1. Be the woman he married – He married you for a reason, he loves you, so be sure you don’t change into a different woman as soon as you’ve eaten the wedding cake!
2. Keep your appearance in check - Don’t pile on the weight after you get ‘comfortable’ with him, nor let your dress sense go. Looking good will help YOU feel better, as well as making sure your husband only has eyes for you.
3. Listen to him and be attentive - Be interested in him and how his day was. Stay up late to see him after he’s had a hard day at work, even if you are tired. Ask him how his day was, before unloading all your troubles (and not too many troubles!)
4. Communicating and the art of communication - Flirt with him throughout the day either via text, email, phone etc (*Note: that’s what all Mistresses do with your husbands*). Be fun and fun loving. Don’t nag! Ultimately make him WANT to come home to you, not HAVE to come home to you.
5. Be Intimate with your husband everyday – Preferably sex YES! But even if you don’t always feel like it, there are other things you can do. If you’re not sleeping with your husband, I guarantee someone else is! Even a hug and a kiss will be welcomed if you can’t go the whole way, but some form of intimacy is essential.
6. Put more friendship in your romance – Lighten up on the romantic side of your marriage. See your man as your best friend as well as your lover. That way you can really be yourself and be relaxed around him, just as you are with good friends.
7. Stroke his ego, and other parts – Men want to feel like men. They want to feel needed and wanted. Tell him how much you appreciate him, especially when he does something nice. Let him know you respect him as a man. And touch him. Be tactile with him.
8. Be Sexy – Even if you sit around in your sweatpants all day, be sure to change just before he comes home from work into something sexier. Oh and remember to shave those legs, and other parts.
9. Ambiance - Create an environment he will enjoy when he comes home. Focus on soft lighting, scented candles and gentle music playing. Maybe run a hot bath, or jump in a steamy shower with him. Have his favourite drink ready, or enjoy a glass of wine together. Hide the kid’s toys, and any other clutter.
10. Time Management – Never make the ‘kids your life.’ All you will do is alienate your husband. Try to manage your time wisely so that when your husband comes home you have time for him. Couples that don’t eat together, or spend the evenings together, generally grow apart. Don’t allow your husband to become distant or lonely, or a space will be created for another woman to walk into his life.
11. Cooking – Be sure to spend less time in the kitchen and more time in the bedroom, as the way to a man’s heart is NOT through his stomach, it’s actually more South of his waistband! A nice hot meal need not take hours so don’t ever slave over a hot stove. Be adventurous in the kitchen, but even more so in the bedroom.
12. Keep your own identity – NEVER be a doormat for your husband. Be a strong woman, and let him know that if he ever mistreats you, or cheats on you, you will not put up with it. Teach him to make sure he respects you, and that he will lose you if he strays. Also, have your own life and interests, so that you are not just ‘a wife.’ Otherwise you will have nothing to ever tell him or surprise him with. You should be willing to work for a relationship, but never suffer for it.