Yes, it is that time of year again. The lonliest time in a Mistress' calendar. For those of you in love with an MM (thankfully I no longer qualify for that role) then it is the most emotionally crucifying time. (Note to my "American Mistresses" - you will have already had to deal with Thanksgiving, so I feel for you. I have been there, done that too!).
(*And, NOTE to any wives reading: - Make sure that the only thing your husband is stuffing this Christmas is, the turkey and you!!)
This is the time of year when the man you love is with another woman, and making Christmas arrangements with HIS friends and family, not with you and yours. I beg of your sisters, do NOT get sucked in by his excuses of how "he will leave his wife in the New Year," or, how he is "only staying with her because it's Christmas," and the icing on the cake of course, "I have to be there for the sake of the kids!" (He doesn't think of that when he spends the rest of the year lying to them!)
I do hope you will all be savvy enough to at least try and get out and meet new people, and bag yourself a single available man for the Christmas season, as well as the New Year!! ... Don't sit at home eating a turkey meal for one, followed by lashings of mulled wine, pontificating over 'what he is doing.' Get out there and start doing it for yourself. (Of course, do let your MM buy you a nice big juicy Christmas present first though :-))
I am hearing from so many of you now - as I always do at this time - as Christmas is the benchmark in a Mistress' diary; a chance to contemplate all that has gone on previously in the year, a time to take stock of it all. Some of your emails are heartbreaking, especially the one from Mistress E who is pregnant by her MM!!
So ladies, I pray you will find some comfort and joy this season. If you are having a tough time, remember, there is a chapter in my book called, "How to Survive Christmas as a Mistress." That will put it all into perspective for you. I wrote that from the heart, after the 'crappy holidays' I always spent being with Mr. X at Christmastime. An awful time of my life (and, even all the gifts couldn't take away the pain.)
Upwards and onwards though. Please keep sending me your emails and stories, and of course, feel free to share your comments on my blog where you will meet plenty of other 'other women.' I do read all of your comments and post them on site, so remember, if you want to remain anonymous, do not leave your name with your comment.
Peace and Profits, and Good Will to all Mistresses
Sarah J. xx