Friday, July 30, 2010

Mistresses on BBC1

The third season of the show Mistresses starts here on BBC1 next week. Sadly, I find it boring and thoroughly depressing, as it is so not true to life at all. But, with purported viewing audiences of 9m per episode, it just shows the amount of interest and intrigue in this topic. If only we could have a reality show about Mistresses. Now that would be worth watching. True life is always better than fiction...

Have a nice weekend you all.
Sarah J x

Sunday, July 18, 2010

Mad Max... or not?

Dear all,
I have been following the Mel Gibson story closer than some - since his destructive and toxic relationship with this Russian broad was born of an affair - I feel I have to. But firstly, let me put on record that I do NOT condone physical violence nor racism whatsoever.

What is making me sick, is that everyone is so ready to condemn him BEFORE we know the truth, and the actual details. Let alone the proof. So far, from what I am reading, I can see that Mel is the victim of an incredibly vicious gold digger, and what she is doing to him actually shows she has a far more evil character than he does, and has major anger issues herself. She is far from a sweet little innocent victim in all this. If Mel did hit her that night, I wonder why she didn't immediately call the cops on him to protect herself, like most women would, and like we have seen most celebrity wives do (think of Charlie Sheen's wife for example). But no, this woman decided to turn the tapes over to the paparazzi rather than to the law. I mean, if this happened back in January, wouldn't she have been so worried and scared from him, that she'd be seeking a restraining order against him before now, so that he wouldn't come anywhere near her or the baby? And, because the tapes are so obviously sliced, diced, and tampered with, they will be inadmissable in court, and won't be able to be used. Therefore, if he DID hit her, he will probably go unpunished, whereas if she HAD called the cops on him, he would get a just punishment and would be made and example of for other abusive men!

As an infidelity analyst, I hear from people every day asking my advice on their relationship problems, and it's my job to try to understand human behavior, good and bad, and get to the root of why we do certain things. Mel Gibson is/was a brilliant actor, who only 6 years ago was number one on the Forbes Celebrity 100 list. When things were going well he was applauded in Hollywood, and was welcomed by the very people who are now turning their back on him. When he was making a ton of money for them things were fine and dandy, but now, when the man needs serious mental help to conquer his many demons, all he is getting is ridicule and the cold shoulder. Nice!

I don't believe that Mel is really a racist. Yes he has said some awful, offensive and hateful things, but these were said in a tsunami of rage. When you are overtaken by rage and anger you really do not know, nor care, what you are saying and doing.

If Mel was giving sober, calm interviews, and in those one on ones he was saying these hideous things, it would be different, but this man was poisoned by alcohol when he launched into most of his rants, so while it is shocking to hear, I am not surprised at all. I am not defending Mel per se, but I am standing his corner to highlight the problems of alcohol and (alleged) physical abuse in regular every day relationships, i.e. not just with Hollywood movie stars.

If Mel did actually hit this woman, we will have another conversation about it, but for now, all I can see from her side is a manipulating gold digger. She met Mel and saw an opportunity. He opened a door and she walked through it. They started an affair, so she was his mistress to begin with (hence the toxicity and the relationship not having a chance in hell from the get-go). He then left his wife for her, he gave her (AND HER SON from another man) a roof over her head, and God knows what else too. She then goes and tricks him into parenthood again (I mean, do you think he REALLY wants to be changing diapers again at 54??), he gives her $5m to produce some album she was working on, and then when things were not going her way, she riles him to a point of insanity. If I was Mel I would be angry at her too, and could think of a few worse names than the ones he used, thats for sure.

I will say though, that whatever the outcome, if Mel didn't use condoms with her due to the fact he is 'so catholic' that won't wash with me. As, part of being a good catholic is to remain faithful to your wife. Which is why I no longer practice the religion personally!

Mel Gibson and I do have one thing in common though, we have both been banned by Barbara Walters from appearing on the show "The View" ever again, both for different reasons, but both seem to involve a semblance of verbal abuse issues. More on that another time!

Sarah J. x

Monday, July 5, 2010

Al, Mel, and Tiger... What Great 'Men' LOL!

Well well well. Lots to talk about right now! Let's look at Al Gore first, and his little case of the "inconvenient truth" coming out! First of all, lets just get one thing straight, and that is, what man doesn't want a happy ending after a massage...and, if his name wasn't Al Gore, nobody would be at all interested in this story. However, all men should learn from this, as if you are the type to request "extra services," then you'd better tip her well, or expect a backlash from it all in the future.

What I would like to know is how Al, who was supposed to be busy saving the world for us, could afford the TIME to have a THREE AND A HALF hour massage?? And, moreover, did he put it on expenses? Hello?? Something is definitely not right here. I mean, I know there is not a lot to do in Portland Oregon (I know that first hand after going there many times with Mr. X, aka Ian Todd, when he was with Nike) but still.... Al? What WERE you thinking. The transcript of the alleged incident written from the woman's side is a little weird...and I think extremely fabrictaed. But, we all know there is no smoke without fire. And it seems there was definitely some global warming going on in Al Gore's pants department!! Not being a fan of Al it is such fun to watch him squirm through the details of all this! At least it took the heat off Larry David's Mrs, who had supposed to have been having an affair with Al for the past two years....

Mel Gibson. What a lovely fellow he is eh! Could one say that he has some anger issues and demons per chance? As the infidelity analyst, let me look at the bigger picture to this story. Just how BAD their relationship was for her to think of taping him in the first place(although, I was told that taping someone in CA without their consent is against the law, but still, needs must I guess!) First mistake was to bring another Gibson child into the world. Why oh why? Obviously planned by the Russian mistress, as between that kid and the one she has with ex James Bond star Timothy Dalton, she $hould be set for life. Bet Mel loved that, walking right into a new relationship that was just like the marriage he had left. Full of responsibility and child rearing. Fun Fun Fun. And, he doesn't even drink anymore...wonder how he coped. Oh well. At least we can add racist to the list of other qualities Mel Gibson has.

As for Elin Woods, she must be pleased as punch to get such a massive payout of $750million. Is that the price of humilitaion these days? Hmmm... Mind you, she will also be reeling that her silence has been bought, as just think how much she would like to spill the real beans on that pig Tiger Woods. Her book would have flown off the shelves. Hopefully if she is smart she will find a way around it. There always is one. A ghostwriter is a good start. After all, he may have bought HER silence, but he hasn't bought the silence of THE person she tells the whole story to, off the record of course :-).

Peace out