It increasingly seems that these days, "revenge" is becoming the "new nice!" Maybe Hallmark should even think about printing a line in revenge cards? I'm sure they'd fly off the shelves - especially at Valentines Day. (Why am I thinking this would make a good episode of Sex and the City BTW?).
From Bernie Madoff's (alleged) mistress writing a book to tell us how small his trouser assets were, ewww...and eeeek.....(but is anyone shocked to hear that? Big ego small parts etc) to John Edward's ex-aide -Andrew Young - releasing a book on what really happened, to YaVaughnie Wilkins, the Mistress of Time Square. We have to wonder what the next revenge story will be.
I'm always surprised that people get so shocked when a woman wants to exact revenge on an ex-lover who used to have all the control in their relationship. Especially if they consider themselves to have been nice, patient women throughout. They naturally feel vengeful. If you love deeply it's just common sense that you grieve deeply too, especially if you have been duped or dumped (God forbid BOTH!!!) and the love you thought you had was proven to mean nothing at all to the other person.
Sometimes the best form of revenge is just simply to make the truth known. As Mistress Wilkins did last week. You want to try and get even with the person who has hurt you and humiliated you so much! When women write to me to ask me if I think they ought to take revenge on a married man, the most typical remedy they want me to endorse being 'should they call the wife,' I never advise them what to do for obvious reasons. What I do say though, is that only you know what you need to do in order to deal with the intense pain you are feeling, to have closure and to move on, but I always remind them to think about their tomorrows too. I personally think it best to somehow get even, get over it, and get on with your life! And on that note, check out this piece on just that in today's Sydney Morning Herald. Bet there will be some splutters over tea and toast in some households down under this morning :-)