Saturday, February 7, 2009

Around the World in 80 Men....

Helloooo sisters, and brrrr from a freezing cold, very snowy, London. Thank God I made it back from Stockholm though, as it was even colder there. I did the talk show (the host was delicious) and here is a link to the show; the first part is in Swedish, and I come on about 29 minutes into the show, so when the screen opens just push the slider across and you will see me come on after a few guests....(By the way, look for my parents in the audience and giving advice to me at the end of the interview...SO cute they are.)

Now to my dating news, and, as I said, this dating business is hard.  I am fending off the married ones with a stick (you would be proud of Ex-Mistress Sarah for that, and at the same time I'm sure not surprised to hear how many MMs out there are dying to have an affair).  Regards the single guys, here's the scoop so far. 
*Sweden -  no interesting guys, so no dates.  
*Myrtle Beach, the date was a disaster (Note to sisters, 26 year olds are great in the bedroom, but not so great in other areas of life such as responsibility and gentlemanly acts, and spoiling a girl.  Why would they be at 26 though eh?).  
*LA a couple of dates from Match.com but nothing special so far.  (I know, MATCH.COM you cry, but what to do?  It's hard out there for an ex-mistress who has professed she will be married within a year... cut me a bit of slack ladies.)
*New York City, and, is the best yet to come?  Well I will be there this week on business, and hopefully some pleasure - especially as it is the run up to Valentines Day. (Note to sisters: remember what I tell you in the 'Handbook for the Other Woman' about what you should expect from your MM at Valentines Day, especially if VD happens to fall on a weekend!  Do NOT accept his excuses for not being able to take you to dinner!) 
Check my Mistresses Anonymous link any time you need extra support

I am trying to inspire you all that life is better with a single guy, and that there are some decent ones out there if you look, however, you know I always speak my mind and tell you the truth, and right now it is like a desolate wasteland of testosterone out there, but, I am NOT going to fall off the wagon. I will find Mr. Right ...(I hope!.)

Keep the faith
Catch you later...
Sarah J. x

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

I just need to vent!!! I was just with my MM, and of course there were kisses, sweet talk and i love yous, the week before we saw each other tonight (we live 3 hrs apart) and before and during our rendezvous tonight. Then once it's all said and done tonight and he leaves, I barely get a kiss good-bye. Frick! Why do I let it bother me so much for him to have a decent good bye and not a rush out the door? Mind you he was going into a night shift at work, but still.... Do I accept when he tells me that he has feelings for me, doesn't want me to flirt with other guys and then asks me if we can still do this when I get married??!!!! What does anyone think I should say to him if anything. My MM was the one that told me that he was falling in love with me and that he has very strong feelings for me and didnt want to keep them inside anymore and then he sometimes acts so nonchalant...arrrgh so frustrating. What does a MM really, truly mean when he says I love you and I have strong feelings to his mistress? SHould I approach the subject of having him leave his wife??

sarah J. Symonds said...

Dear Mistress who needs to vent...is this who I think it is? Is this 'Mistress T' who I sent a book to???
I hope it isn't you T, as I thought you were moving on from him??
Let me know...
Sarah J.

Anonymous said...

Sarah,
No this is not Mistress 'T' just another woman who has fallen into the MM game. I have read your book though, don't know why I'm having such a hard time letting him go especially now with that all this feeling stuff has come out.

Anonymous said...

I live in Scandinavia and I saw the show last night, and I loved it. I guess I get the price here. i have been with the same MM for 20 years and I havent turned 50 yet. We have a lovely daughter, ooohhh I forgot.... I have a lovely daughter. He doesn't want to have anything to do with here. I still meet him, but I'm trying to get him out of my mind. He does not even pay for her. What am I thinking.????
I will try to get hold of your book. I will go to LOndon in June, maybe I will get it there. I am trying to get out of this relationship, I deserve so much more, but we connect very well when we meet. Take care.

sarah J. Symonds said...

Dear Mistress in Scandinavia, thank you for your email. How exciting to hear from you and hear that you watched the show. Well now, 20 years!!??!!! Gosh, I guess it is a way of life for you now and that you are literally like a second wife. I really hope he is good to you and treats you as such...

You could try Amazon for my book ..
Best
Sarah J. x

sarah J. Symonds said...

Dear Scandinavian Mistress, I just re-read your email and he doesn't even pay for the child?? Yes, what WERE you thinking.... Oh dear....

SJ

Anonymous said...

Hi again. I guess the only thing I have acomplised these years is saving his marriage..... We do not see each other so often any more, and he does not call me so much anymore (once a month). Why can't I just forget him.?? I will try to tell him that he needs to pay for his daughter( 7 years) and that I'm finished being second best. But will I have the courige doing that?? What do I have to loose ..?? Nothing.... Am I afraid of being alone...? No...I am alone every singel night...What is it that is preventing me from cutting the line here??? I'm a bit confuesed here. And why do I love him??? Or do I think I love him? Everytime I have met other men , I compared them to him? And they are long gone before I am through comparing....
I'm really trapped here...
"The scandinavian mistress"

Lucy said...

There is nothing there. You are not even his mistress any more. At least get some security for your daughter. He has had the best of both worlds for 20 years and like Sarah says it was a way of life for you but you accepted it.

For your daughter's sake you need to accept this man has no serious intentions to recognise you or her.

Love Lucy