Thursday, September 6, 2012
Do you REALLY need the plus one in your life??
Sisters, and even brothers,
I want to talk to you today about staying in the wrong relationships. WHY do it?? Since my show aired last week, I have heard it all. Emails from women involved with married men who said they were 'unhappy at home' (*rolls eyes*) and one today even, from a Mistress who believed her married man to have filed for separation...not only did she just find out he filed incorrectly, and hence is still married (*yawn*) but his wife came over to confront her and the wife is heavily pregnant!!!!! Why do these TWO women stay with this cheating narcissitic individual??
We are all looking to love and be loved, I get that, but we have to respect ourselves and know that it is wrong on all levels to just stay with the wrong person for the sake of it, the person who does not make you happy. Whether it be because you feel you can't be alone, or that you feel you just have to have a 'somebody' in your life. No, you don't. You will survive, and you will be better off alone than with the wrong person who may be draining you and rotting you to your very core.
So today's message is love yourself first. Put yourself first. Anyone who wants to be with you should be open, honest, and upfront. Lets keep the liars, cads, and cheats at bay.
Stay strong you all, and live a happy life not a crappy life!
Peace
Sarah J. xo
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Sarah I fell in love with a man who was a skunk, but it took me a while to see that. These men get invovled with women with low self-esteem. Even if we don't want to admit it to ourselves, we don't think much of ourselves if we allow him to have his cake and eat it too, while we settle for the crumbs. I see him now and think, what the hell was I thinking. I'm glad to be rid of him and if it means I'm alone well so be it. At one point I thought I'd rather be miserable with him than without, but the fact is, I don't want to be miserable at all. I am not now, and I'm so glad you were brave enough to come out of the mistress closet so to speak. Love your show.
Hi Sarah, thank you very much for being your open and honest self! I began being the other woman at the beginning of the summer. Once my feeling stared to deepen for him in the past few weeks, i started to be panicked and paranoid. this week, I saw your show on Lifetime and realized that the only person that would truly be demolished emotionally in this relationship would be me. Last night I told him it was over. I stood my ground, and now, through all the tears this morning, I know without a doubt that I'm way better off being without this man. Thanks again, I know I'll be feeling as right as rain soon. I respect myself and what can be better than that?
Hey Sarah,
Thanks to your stupid show, my girlfriend asked me this morning (on our 12th anniversary) if I had another girlfriend.
We're in a dry spell, sexually because I'm on anti-depressants. Have never cheated on her. I hate watching the little interviews of guys on your show talk about cheating. Like every guy wants to cheat.
I love my partner more and more everyday. Now, she's worried I'm cheating on her - because of comments you've made on your show about "no sex".
So thanks a lot. Maybe I'll off myself.
Hi Sarah, I'm not the "other woman" but the blindsided wife. I watch your show, and I was deeply affected by the one I watched last night, where the other woman had a baby with the married man. That's what happened to me! She seriously thought that if she got pregnant he would leave me, her plan backfired.
It amazes me what these women will do, and it doesn't matter who they hurt in the way. She thinks her child is more important than our children...
Love your show. Hope it helps some women, and men, wake up.
Sarah,
I would like to hear more of your mistress-proofing a marriage. Many men feel that if their wife has begun to ignore them, not interested in sex, or gives excuses for not having sex, that they, the men have the right to cheat.
How is that different from the woman you endorsed cheating on her husband because he was disabled?
I was involved with my married man for 1.5yrs. I cut it off with him and phone his wife to tell her.
A very messy way to end it, but this was the only way I could break the addiction. He is pissed and will never forgive me. That's ok because he deserved it and now I can finally move on.
Hi Sarah I just heard about you this morning on kiis fm and liked your advice. It got me thinking about a lot of stuff. I've been with a married man for now 6 1/2 yrs and feel lonely and worthless most of time. I am only 33 but as he puts it I have a lot of bagage I have 5 kids frm my previous marriage he swears that's the only reason he won't leave his wife. but my thing is I can't change that so I know I'm wasting my time. My fear is being alone who's gona want a divorced woman with 5 kids . how do I move on.
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