Today is the day that a cheating married man will spoil his Mistress. The 13th February is officially Valentines Day for the Other Woman, and the night when many restaurants do their most business. Just why you choose to be with a man who can't be with you on the actual day is another blog for another time. Today its all about how not to get duped, or deceived this Valentines Day. It’s supposed to be the “Day of Love”, but is your husband cheating on you this Valentine’s Day? Is your boyfriend secretly married?
A few simple rules for potentially unwitting mistresses: If he is married (or has a significant other) he probably won't be available on the 14th, and will give you a myriad of excellent reasons why. Don't fall for them too easily or believe them without doing your due diligence. If he was telling the truth at least you have satisfied yourself. If there is a good reason why he can't take you out on the 14th, and can't call you or reply to your texts, fine, but it had better be good, otherwise you might want to dig a little deeper.
A few simple rules for wives who may be being cheated on: If your husband is busy tonight, on the 13th February, but his reason doesn't seem watertight, or if he seems shifty today, find out why. If he says he is 'working late at the office' - call the office, not his cell. Also, if he says he has to go on a business trip, investigate that one. Does he really have to go this week? Also, look for more money coming out of the bank account at this time of year too, as well as noticing if he is 'absent' both physically and emotionally.
You may think I'm being harsh, but trust me, you don't see the massive mail bag of letters and emails I get every single day from women bemoaning the fact that they were duped by a man they thought was single, separated, divorced, or 'living apart but under the same roof.' STOP falling for this claptrap. I'm also inundated with wives who write to tell me how the 'signs were there, but they just didn't want to see them.' Wishing now they hadn't wasted so much time living in denial.
My blogs are all about living in the truth. I know every trick, line, and lie, a married man uses to attract or keep his mistress, as well as the ones he uses to placate and manipulate a wife so that she doesn't rumble him. Don't be that Mistress, and don't be that Wife! My mission is to help women avoid the time and trauma of dating a cheat, or being married to one.
Happy Valentines Day all. Just don't let it be a Valen-SWINES day!!
Peace and hugs
Sarah J. xo