Sisters. Again I reach out to all of you who wrote/write to me - especially those who wrote after seeing me on The Dr Phil show. There is another prime time TV Talk show that needs us. Anyone who would be interested in telling their story please contact me. I can tell you more then. Your chance to have your say. Email me at sarah@havinganaffairthebook.com. I am especially interested in those who live in LA, as it makes logistics easier, but still write and if you are willing to go on - and you have the typically sad toxic story we all do/did - I am sure we can make it work. Also, maybe you are a 'happy mistress' or even one of the many desperate wives who write to me that are having affairs. Can't wait to hear from you...
Sarah J x
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Will you ever have the same in the UK? I'm stuck in an affair with a MM and need your help, it's tearing me apart.....thanks
Dear UK, Yes, email me or come to the mistresses anonymous chatroom for support.
Picked up your book yesterday. Dumped my MM today. I'm finally out of the affair that I've endured since 1984 when I was just 19.
Everything in your book was me! It was when I read the line in your book, "he loves her more than he loves you or he would be with you and not her," that my heart sank.
Thank you for prying open my eyes.
Wow. Dear Anon. I am so honored to have helped you get out of your lengthy affair. Can you come to the Mistresses Anonymous meeting later today? Link is on my home page of my website www.havinganaffairthebook.com. BTW where did you pick up my book out of interest? Glad to be of help. See you at MA. Sarah J.
I wasn't able to find your book in any local bookstores, but I was able to order it offline. I too, just last week decided to walk away from my on and off yr and a half affair with my MM. I found your book and site online while looking for girls sharing the same experience as me. Just got your book this weekend in the mail, and I love it so Thank You. Ive never been blind to the situation or what it was, so while its nothing new to read it all... it's helping reassure myself I made the right choice walking away now, and to stick to it. And a bit less painful I guess seeing I'm not the only one going through this! I saw the chat posted on your facebook, and will try to make it later! Thanks again and best of luck to everyone else going through the same.
I too just received your book. It is an eye opener. I have been wavering what to do with my MM. I have recently met his wife and she is nothing like he portrayed. I am racked with guilt. Everytime I have tried to break it off with him, he does something to make me want to stay. More lies of course. I can't put your book down and am hoping I have the strength to do the right thing.
Thank you for all you do.
I saw you on the Dr. Phil show yesterday and came to this site today. Reading these posts by all the other women involved with MM's makes me realize that I was not alone those five years I was with my MM. I had tried many times to end it; the shame and guilt I felt all these years was tremendous. I could not understand how he could treat me with no respect or dignity, but at the same time tell me that he loved me. It has been the darkest five years of my life. I recently broke up with him for good, but was having a hard time dealing with my sense of loss. Reading all these posts has strengthened me and helped me to see that these men are all the same... that my affair, although secret, was no different than all of them. These MM are predictable; they are not special like we think they are. They are liars and cheats and treat their wives and us with disrespect and disregard. These men are selfish and cowardly. I have learned that I somehow must not think I am worthy of true love and respect since I know in my heart my MM could not give this to me. These are deep issues that stem from childhood. This is not a conscious feeling, it is underneath and I am sure it has affected many more aspects of my life. You really have to examine your life and how you feel about yourself. Think back to your childhood and to how your mom and dad treated you. Lots of adult issues can stem from childhood. Before I go out looking for love elsewhere, I need to start with myself. I need to learn how to love myself. But who can teach me this?
God bless all of you who are in pain and all of you who survived and are now well.
I can't reply to you all, especially when you are mostly anonymous - but all know that I do read your blog posts and so do many other women and it helps them so much. For my personal advice please come to a Mistresses Anonymous session and we chat on line in the MA chatroom. The link is below.
http://livestream.com/uk2la/old
Sarah J x
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