Dear Tana,
I can't help but write this open letter to you after reading Gordon's "heartfelt" interview in Saturday's Daily Mail. I had to reach out to you and offer you my support at this ghastly time, especially due to the weak individual he is trying to portray you as.
I offer you my support with much credibility Tana, as, after my affair with your husband was exposed, I've worked extremely hard to reform myself, and now, as the World's first, and only, "Infidelity Analyst," I'm able to use my intimate inside knowledge (and lessons learned by my mistakes of the heart) to help women everywhere live in the truth. I especially help wives all over the world by mentoring them on how NOT to be used and humiliated by their husbands, especially by celebrity ones who think they can have it all. So, hand on heart, I write to you here today with all good intentions, because after reading - along with the rest of the world - all that is being said about you by Gordon, and by your father, I really feel for you. I mean, it can't be easy for a woman like you to be perceived by both of them as SO weak, and so easy to manipulate. Tana, you are a successful woman, mother, and author, and represent what so many married women aspire to be. What they are saying is damaging and it's unfair of them. After all, they are the ones with the secrets, with the clearly dodgy dealings!! To me this is classic behavior of the typical narcissist; to deflect any wrong doing by immediately going on the attack, but aiming to use a weaker person in the scenario to look as though they are being the 'big man'. Yawn!
I know full well what it is like to be manipulated by bullies and powerful men with huge egos Tana, and sadly your husband featured as one of them in my life for way too long. I can now totally and absolutely see why he'd always tell me that he and your father were "so tight," as - from what is unfolding for all to see - it seems they share so MANY of the same 'qualities' (or rather, traits should I say) not least in how they are dealing with this ugly debacle for all the world to see. It is hard to even get through the interviews they are both giving, as every word is dripping with such hatred and innuendo. I guess they are both trying to be the first to expose each other and spill the dirt. Bit like kids in a playground really. Pathetic!
Tana, after the news of my affair with Gordon broke, I read in an article somewhere that you said you, "admired you mother and father greatly", and that you'd always, "wanted a marriage like they had!" I swear that is why I truly thought you stayed with Gordon when you found out he had been cheating on you with me, and with others, as I thought you were perhaps referring to the secret life your father had too. I assumed you'd perhaps been brought up in a Jimmy Goldsmith type household, where everything was out in the open.
So, to read in Gordon's interview that, "Tana still does not know everything about her father, but she is certainly getting up to speed — and that is a little scary. She knows about 90 per cent. She has been shocked. She struggled. It is a big blow. She had this perfect image of her daddy and it is not there....", then again, hand on heart, I am honestly blown away. My God, you must not know who to trust anymore, and I don't blame you!!!! It seems that both men have lied to you and manipulated you, but sadly you have let them Tana. You are way too nice, and way too good for them. I always recommend wives show more backbone at times like these. Show them what you are made of and stand up to these men. Regain some self-respect and dignity and not let your man/men treat you as a weaker individual. After all, men (whoever they are) will ONLY walk all over you IF YOU LET THEM!
Reading the interview Gordon gave to the Daily Mail was like wading through treacle. I question how a 'man' can sit there and say all those things about another man's private life, when he himself has so many skeletons in that department. Also, how can he still try to pull the wool over the eyes of the general public by pretending to be such a family man, worried about his kids and his wife etc, when he never seemed worried about them when he was with me, and doing his own thing. I find it all very bizarre, and I have to wonder if he is indeed having a breakdown, has become 'that monster,' or is perhaps on some kind of wrong medication for those pesky mood swings. Perhaps you ought to check?
When I read that he referred to you as being used as a "target" by your family when his back was turned, in order to, "try to manipulate and poison," my heart went out to you. Making you out to seem as though you have no mind of your own and could be poisoned that easily? And the kicker was, when he referred to you as, "the weak point," they all saw you as? WHAT??? God... that was low. Furthermore, he refers to you as in floods of tears and is constantly listening to you bawling your eyes out? That is hugely sexist, let alone something that is best kept private. If only Gordy would own up to his part of what drives you to these floods of tears eh Tana? Mind you, that would take integrity, so we better pass on that one.
Anyhow, I am in your corner Tana as I certainly know how hard it is to discover that people you've loved and trusted are not who you thought they were at all. It is HEARTBREAKING. Trust me, I know that feeling. And, although I don't know your mother from Adam, if she really did give you that advice about dumping Gordon, she kinda has my vote here I have to say....
Take care.
Peace and hugs
Sarah x
Friday, November 12, 2010
Monday, September 20, 2010
Dear Sisters,
One of our own needs us. I have given her some advice on an email, but she would like very much YOUR feedback, and to know if you guys have done such things. (We all have right!!). My main message to her is 'what's done is done,' and that this man pushed her to such a place of pain that she was not responsible for her actions. She became as bad as him (we all do) and at the end of the day she actually did the wife a favour by telling her. My concern is that the wife is not genuine though, and is not really divorcing him at all. Please help her by leaving some comments of encouragement below, as only you all can.
"Hello my fellow sisters -- I am in a dilemma over something I've done, and I would really appreciate your honest feedback.
After a year and a half, I anonymously contacted the soon-to-be-ex-wife of my MM (using an old email address) and told her that he was having an affair and that she should "hire an investigator because he may be bi-sexual too" (this I suspect based on insecurities he had revealed to me about himself). The wife wrote me back that "we are already divorcing" and that she "has never trusted him but couldn't prove anything" and then asked me to help her with the divorce by sending her proof. She promised to keep my identity confidential. I told her I'd think about it, and never contacted her again. She never contacted me again either.
My dilemma is this: I knew contacting her was wrong and was "bad karma" but I didn't care at the time. I just HAD to know if they were really divorcing (like he told me) and what the story was. Now that I know, I do not feel any better. I feel HORRIBLE. I am a worse betrayer than he ever was. I betrayed his "very personal insecurities" that he disclosed to me (about his "issues as a man"). And I am ashamed to say that I am more concerned about the bad karma than about any damage I did to him. Or her.
Also, what if he finds out it was me? I think I used that email with him at one time. I am not a bad person, I really am a good person, which is why I can't understand why I couldn't stop myself from doing what I did. Am I terrible? Should I tell him what I did? There's no excuse for doing that, in my opinion. Please tell me your opinions, and if you've ever felt this way or did this too.
Thank you, Sisters.
Anonymous"
One of our own needs us. I have given her some advice on an email, but she would like very much YOUR feedback, and to know if you guys have done such things. (We all have right!!). My main message to her is 'what's done is done,' and that this man pushed her to such a place of pain that she was not responsible for her actions. She became as bad as him (we all do) and at the end of the day she actually did the wife a favour by telling her. My concern is that the wife is not genuine though, and is not really divorcing him at all. Please help her by leaving some comments of encouragement below, as only you all can.
"Hello my fellow sisters -- I am in a dilemma over something I've done, and I would really appreciate your honest feedback.
After a year and a half, I anonymously contacted the soon-to-be-ex-wife of my MM (using an old email address) and told her that he was having an affair and that she should "hire an investigator because he may be bi-sexual too" (this I suspect based on insecurities he had revealed to me about himself). The wife wrote me back that "we are already divorcing" and that she "has never trusted him but couldn't prove anything" and then asked me to help her with the divorce by sending her proof. She promised to keep my identity confidential. I told her I'd think about it, and never contacted her again. She never contacted me again either.
My dilemma is this: I knew contacting her was wrong and was "bad karma" but I didn't care at the time. I just HAD to know if they were really divorcing (like he told me) and what the story was. Now that I know, I do not feel any better. I feel HORRIBLE. I am a worse betrayer than he ever was. I betrayed his "very personal insecurities" that he disclosed to me (about his "issues as a man"). And I am ashamed to say that I am more concerned about the bad karma than about any damage I did to him. Or her.
Also, what if he finds out it was me? I think I used that email with him at one time. I am not a bad person, I really am a good person, which is why I can't understand why I couldn't stop myself from doing what I did. Am I terrible? Should I tell him what I did? There's no excuse for doing that, in my opinion. Please tell me your opinions, and if you've ever felt this way or did this too.
Thank you, Sisters.
Anonymous"
Friday, July 30, 2010
Mistresses on BBC1
Well,
The third season of the show Mistresses starts here on BBC1 next week. Sadly, I find it boring and thoroughly depressing, as it is so not true to life at all. But, with purported viewing audiences of 9m per episode, it just shows the amount of interest and intrigue in this topic. If only we could have a reality show about Mistresses. Now that would be worth watching. True life is always better than fiction...
Have a nice weekend you all.
Peace
Sarah J x
The third season of the show Mistresses starts here on BBC1 next week. Sadly, I find it boring and thoroughly depressing, as it is so not true to life at all. But, with purported viewing audiences of 9m per episode, it just shows the amount of interest and intrigue in this topic. If only we could have a reality show about Mistresses. Now that would be worth watching. True life is always better than fiction...
Have a nice weekend you all.
Peace
Sarah J x
Sunday, July 18, 2010
Mad Max... or not?
Dear all,
I have been following the Mel Gibson story closer than some - since his destructive and toxic relationship with this Russian broad was born of an affair - I feel I have to. But firstly, let me put on record that I do NOT condone physical violence nor racism whatsoever.
What is making me sick, is that everyone is so ready to condemn him BEFORE we know the truth, and the actual details. Let alone the proof. So far, from what I am reading, I can see that Mel is the victim of an incredibly vicious gold digger, and what she is doing to him actually shows she has a far more evil character than he does, and has major anger issues herself. She is far from a sweet little innocent victim in all this. If Mel did hit her that night, I wonder why she didn't immediately call the cops on him to protect herself, like most women would, and like we have seen most celebrity wives do (think of Charlie Sheen's wife for example). But no, this woman decided to turn the tapes over to the paparazzi rather than to the law. I mean, if this happened back in January, wouldn't she have been so worried and scared from him, that she'd be seeking a restraining order against him before now, so that he wouldn't come anywhere near her or the baby? And, because the tapes are so obviously sliced, diced, and tampered with, they will be inadmissable in court, and won't be able to be used. Therefore, if he DID hit her, he will probably go unpunished, whereas if she HAD called the cops on him, he would get a just punishment and would be made and example of for other abusive men!
As an infidelity analyst, I hear from people every day asking my advice on their relationship problems, and it's my job to try to understand human behavior, good and bad, and get to the root of why we do certain things. Mel Gibson is/was a brilliant actor, who only 6 years ago was number one on the Forbes Celebrity 100 list. When things were going well he was applauded in Hollywood, and was welcomed by the very people who are now turning their back on him. When he was making a ton of money for them things were fine and dandy, but now, when the man needs serious mental help to conquer his many demons, all he is getting is ridicule and the cold shoulder. Nice!
I don't believe that Mel is really a racist. Yes he has said some awful, offensive and hateful things, but these were said in a tsunami of rage. When you are overtaken by rage and anger you really do not know, nor care, what you are saying and doing.
If Mel was giving sober, calm interviews, and in those one on ones he was saying these hideous things, it would be different, but this man was poisoned by alcohol when he launched into most of his rants, so while it is shocking to hear, I am not surprised at all. I am not defending Mel per se, but I am standing his corner to highlight the problems of alcohol and (alleged) physical abuse in regular every day relationships, i.e. not just with Hollywood movie stars.
If Mel did actually hit this woman, we will have another conversation about it, but for now, all I can see from her side is a manipulating gold digger. She met Mel and saw an opportunity. He opened a door and she walked through it. They started an affair, so she was his mistress to begin with (hence the toxicity and the relationship not having a chance in hell from the get-go). He then left his wife for her, he gave her (AND HER SON from another man) a roof over her head, and God knows what else too. She then goes and tricks him into parenthood again (I mean, do you think he REALLY wants to be changing diapers again at 54??), he gives her $5m to produce some album she was working on, and then when things were not going her way, she riles him to a point of insanity. If I was Mel I would be angry at her too, and could think of a few worse names than the ones he used, thats for sure.
I will say though, that whatever the outcome, if Mel didn't use condoms with her due to the fact he is 'so catholic' that won't wash with me. As, part of being a good catholic is to remain faithful to your wife. Which is why I no longer practice the religion personally!
Mel Gibson and I do have one thing in common though, we have both been banned by Barbara Walters from appearing on the show "The View" ever again, both for different reasons, but both seem to involve a semblance of verbal abuse issues. More on that another time!
Peace
Sarah J. x
I have been following the Mel Gibson story closer than some - since his destructive and toxic relationship with this Russian broad was born of an affair - I feel I have to. But firstly, let me put on record that I do NOT condone physical violence nor racism whatsoever.
What is making me sick, is that everyone is so ready to condemn him BEFORE we know the truth, and the actual details. Let alone the proof. So far, from what I am reading, I can see that Mel is the victim of an incredibly vicious gold digger, and what she is doing to him actually shows she has a far more evil character than he does, and has major anger issues herself. She is far from a sweet little innocent victim in all this. If Mel did hit her that night, I wonder why she didn't immediately call the cops on him to protect herself, like most women would, and like we have seen most celebrity wives do (think of Charlie Sheen's wife for example). But no, this woman decided to turn the tapes over to the paparazzi rather than to the law. I mean, if this happened back in January, wouldn't she have been so worried and scared from him, that she'd be seeking a restraining order against him before now, so that he wouldn't come anywhere near her or the baby? And, because the tapes are so obviously sliced, diced, and tampered with, they will be inadmissable in court, and won't be able to be used. Therefore, if he DID hit her, he will probably go unpunished, whereas if she HAD called the cops on him, he would get a just punishment and would be made and example of for other abusive men!
As an infidelity analyst, I hear from people every day asking my advice on their relationship problems, and it's my job to try to understand human behavior, good and bad, and get to the root of why we do certain things. Mel Gibson is/was a brilliant actor, who only 6 years ago was number one on the Forbes Celebrity 100 list. When things were going well he was applauded in Hollywood, and was welcomed by the very people who are now turning their back on him. When he was making a ton of money for them things were fine and dandy, but now, when the man needs serious mental help to conquer his many demons, all he is getting is ridicule and the cold shoulder. Nice!
I don't believe that Mel is really a racist. Yes he has said some awful, offensive and hateful things, but these were said in a tsunami of rage. When you are overtaken by rage and anger you really do not know, nor care, what you are saying and doing.
If Mel was giving sober, calm interviews, and in those one on ones he was saying these hideous things, it would be different, but this man was poisoned by alcohol when he launched into most of his rants, so while it is shocking to hear, I am not surprised at all. I am not defending Mel per se, but I am standing his corner to highlight the problems of alcohol and (alleged) physical abuse in regular every day relationships, i.e. not just with Hollywood movie stars.
If Mel did actually hit this woman, we will have another conversation about it, but for now, all I can see from her side is a manipulating gold digger. She met Mel and saw an opportunity. He opened a door and she walked through it. They started an affair, so she was his mistress to begin with (hence the toxicity and the relationship not having a chance in hell from the get-go). He then left his wife for her, he gave her (AND HER SON from another man) a roof over her head, and God knows what else too. She then goes and tricks him into parenthood again (I mean, do you think he REALLY wants to be changing diapers again at 54??), he gives her $5m to produce some album she was working on, and then when things were not going her way, she riles him to a point of insanity. If I was Mel I would be angry at her too, and could think of a few worse names than the ones he used, thats for sure.
I will say though, that whatever the outcome, if Mel didn't use condoms with her due to the fact he is 'so catholic' that won't wash with me. As, part of being a good catholic is to remain faithful to your wife. Which is why I no longer practice the religion personally!
Mel Gibson and I do have one thing in common though, we have both been banned by Barbara Walters from appearing on the show "The View" ever again, both for different reasons, but both seem to involve a semblance of verbal abuse issues. More on that another time!
Peace
Sarah J. x
Monday, July 5, 2010
Al, Mel, and Tiger... What Great 'Men' LOL!
Well well well. Lots to talk about right now! Let's look at Al Gore first, and his little case of the "inconvenient truth" coming out! First of all, lets just get one thing straight, and that is, what man doesn't want a happy ending after a massage...and, if his name wasn't Al Gore, nobody would be at all interested in this story. However, all men should learn from this, as if you are the type to request "extra services," then you'd better tip her well, or expect a backlash from it all in the future.
What I would like to know is how Al, who was supposed to be busy saving the world for us, could afford the TIME to have a THREE AND A HALF hour massage?? And, moreover, did he put it on expenses? Hello?? Something is definitely not right here. I mean, I know there is not a lot to do in Portland Oregon (I know that first hand after going there many times with Mr. X, aka Ian Todd, when he was with Nike) but still.... Al? What WERE you thinking. The transcript of the alleged incident written from the woman's side is a little weird...and I think extremely fabrictaed. But, we all know there is no smoke without fire. And it seems there was definitely some global warming going on in Al Gore's pants department!! Not being a fan of Al it is such fun to watch him squirm through the details of all this! At least it took the heat off Larry David's Mrs, who had supposed to have been having an affair with Al for the past two years....
Mel Gibson. What a lovely fellow he is eh! Could one say that he has some anger issues and demons per chance? As the infidelity analyst, let me look at the bigger picture to this story. Just how BAD their relationship was for her to think of taping him in the first place(although, I was told that taping someone in CA without their consent is against the law, but still, needs must I guess!) First mistake was to bring another Gibson child into the world. Why oh why? Obviously planned by the Russian mistress, as between that kid and the one she has with ex James Bond star Timothy Dalton, she $hould be set for life. Bet Mel loved that, walking right into a new relationship that was just like the marriage he had left. Full of responsibility and child rearing. Fun Fun Fun. And, he doesn't even drink anymore...wonder how he coped. Oh well. At least we can add racist to the list of other qualities Mel Gibson has.
As for Elin Woods, she must be pleased as punch to get such a massive payout of $750million. Is that the price of humilitaion these days? Hmmm... Mind you, she will also be reeling that her silence has been bought, as just think how much she would like to spill the real beans on that pig Tiger Woods. Her book would have flown off the shelves. Hopefully if she is smart she will find a way around it. There always is one. A ghostwriter is a good start. After all, he may have bought HER silence, but he hasn't bought the silence of THE person she tells the whole story to, off the record of course :-).
Peace out
SJS x
What I would like to know is how Al, who was supposed to be busy saving the world for us, could afford the TIME to have a THREE AND A HALF hour massage?? And, moreover, did he put it on expenses? Hello?? Something is definitely not right here. I mean, I know there is not a lot to do in Portland Oregon (I know that first hand after going there many times with Mr. X, aka Ian Todd, when he was with Nike) but still.... Al? What WERE you thinking. The transcript of the alleged incident written from the woman's side is a little weird...and I think extremely fabrictaed. But, we all know there is no smoke without fire. And it seems there was definitely some global warming going on in Al Gore's pants department!! Not being a fan of Al it is such fun to watch him squirm through the details of all this! At least it took the heat off Larry David's Mrs, who had supposed to have been having an affair with Al for the past two years....
Mel Gibson. What a lovely fellow he is eh! Could one say that he has some anger issues and demons per chance? As the infidelity analyst, let me look at the bigger picture to this story. Just how BAD their relationship was for her to think of taping him in the first place(although, I was told that taping someone in CA without their consent is against the law, but still, needs must I guess!) First mistake was to bring another Gibson child into the world. Why oh why? Obviously planned by the Russian mistress, as between that kid and the one she has with ex James Bond star Timothy Dalton, she $hould be set for life. Bet Mel loved that, walking right into a new relationship that was just like the marriage he had left. Full of responsibility and child rearing. Fun Fun Fun. And, he doesn't even drink anymore...wonder how he coped. Oh well. At least we can add racist to the list of other qualities Mel Gibson has.
As for Elin Woods, she must be pleased as punch to get such a massive payout of $750million. Is that the price of humilitaion these days? Hmmm... Mind you, she will also be reeling that her silence has been bought, as just think how much she would like to spill the real beans on that pig Tiger Woods. Her book would have flown off the shelves. Hopefully if she is smart she will find a way around it. There always is one. A ghostwriter is a good start. After all, he may have bought HER silence, but he hasn't bought the silence of THE person she tells the whole story to, off the record of course :-).
Peace out
SJS x
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Open letter to Rachel Uchitel
As founder of the Mistresses Anonymous Society, a 12-step program to help women wake up and "dump that married man," I have to write this open letter regards fellow sister of the mistress-hood Rachel Uchitel. I was disgusted by her interview last week on TMZ. (Here is the link incase you can stomach it http://www.tmz.com/2010/05/14/rachel-uchitel-tiger-woods-david-boreanaz-tmz-live-mistress-extortion-money/)
"Dear Rachel
As founder of the Mistresses Anonymous Society - which I pioneered to help women get OUT of their toxic relationships with married man - I was appalled to see your self-righteous attitude while giving a TV interview last week. Sitting there in your low cut dress, you smugly epitomized absolutely everything bad about the "other woman" that I have worked so hard to eradicate. As you languished there with your deep (fake) suntan, white teeth, off the shoulder number, and acrylic nails, it was clear to see where Tiger's money is being well spent, and that's fine, but sadly you represented the stereotypical "hot-to-trot-whore look" that people always want to label the other woman with. So well done. Good job. You just made life a whole lot harder for the rest of us, and you played right into everybody's hands. Namely the media.
Having been extremely vocal about my own affairs (and there is STILL much more to come) I do get that you want to voice your side of the story, truly I do, but when will you start assuming some responsibility yourself eh Rachel? When will you start to accept the part you played in all this too? Yes I am sure these men told you many lies, and while we know that nobody FORCED any of them to sleep with you, it was their choice, trust me love, however hot you may think you look, if you had said no, they would have surely found someone else to sleep with. Married men who want to cheat always find a way.
I have far more respect for Tiger's other women than you. At least they seem to own their own truth. They know who they are, like we all should, and are not afraid to say it. I hope if I ever see you on TV again, you will have adopted a more caring and contrite attitude. If you need some help with that, come to one of my Mistresses Anonymous meetings. A tip though, come in disguise, as you're not very popular right now. Not even with your fraternity!"
http://www.nypost.com/p/pagesix/endquote_kWcXlGQEmY9fjYo9UWwiIK
"Dear Rachel
As founder of the Mistresses Anonymous Society - which I pioneered to help women get OUT of their toxic relationships with married man - I was appalled to see your self-righteous attitude while giving a TV interview last week. Sitting there in your low cut dress, you smugly epitomized absolutely everything bad about the "other woman" that I have worked so hard to eradicate. As you languished there with your deep (fake) suntan, white teeth, off the shoulder number, and acrylic nails, it was clear to see where Tiger's money is being well spent, and that's fine, but sadly you represented the stereotypical "hot-to-trot-whore look" that people always want to label the other woman with. So well done. Good job. You just made life a whole lot harder for the rest of us, and you played right into everybody's hands. Namely the media.
Having been extremely vocal about my own affairs (and there is STILL much more to come) I do get that you want to voice your side of the story, truly I do, but when will you start assuming some responsibility yourself eh Rachel? When will you start to accept the part you played in all this too? Yes I am sure these men told you many lies, and while we know that nobody FORCED any of them to sleep with you, it was their choice, trust me love, however hot you may think you look, if you had said no, they would have surely found someone else to sleep with. Married men who want to cheat always find a way.
I have far more respect for Tiger's other women than you. At least they seem to own their own truth. They know who they are, like we all should, and are not afraid to say it. I hope if I ever see you on TV again, you will have adopted a more caring and contrite attitude. If you need some help with that, come to one of my Mistresses Anonymous meetings. A tip though, come in disguise, as you're not very popular right now. Not even with your fraternity!"
http://www.nypost.com/p/pagesix/endquote_kWcXlGQEmY9fjYo9UWwiIK
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
Extortion my foot!
Gotta love ole Marty Singer eh. It's ok for his clients to put their penises in women who are not their wives/partners but better watch out if the other woman wants something too LOL
http://www.radaronline.com/exclusives/2010/05/exclusive-top-la-lawyer-says-extortion-stars-who-have-affairs-rise
http://www.radaronline.com/exclusives/2010/05/exclusive-top-la-lawyer-says-extortion-stars-who-have-affairs-rise
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