Dear all
As the World's foremost Infidelity Analyst, it's time for me to weigh-in on the Ryan Giggs situation - or of the current situation so far!
Let me start off with the fact that there are three categories of men who cheat; I call them "Types 1, 2, and 3." Ryan Giggs definitely falls into the Type 1 bracket. Type 1 is the "Serial Philanderer." However good his life - and his marriage - the serial cheat will always need numerous women on the side to help fulfill and boost his huge inflated ego and his sense of entitlement. Most married, male, celebrity cheats fall into the Type 1 bracket. Tiger Woods was a classic Type 1 cheater too. These are men surrounded by too much money and too many temptations. They are never satisfied with 'just one' of anything. I mean, imagine a Footballer (a Manchester United one especially) having just one car, one holiday, or one tattoo?! Never. So why are we then shocked that one woman is never enough for them. I truly believe it is in the premiership footballer's DNA to cheat, and some would say their wives and girlfriends (aka WAGS) know this and expect it to take place. We can safely say that they are rarely disappointed - and with the most respected man in football having cheated, this is prime example. It also seems the rule of thumb is that WAGS always stay with their cheating husbands. I guess in their world there is nothing that a new Range Rover, or a "make up trip" to Dubai won't sort out.
The case of Ryan Gigg's affair is a little more shocking than most though. The fact that he was cheating with Imogen Thomas is one thing (and also rumour of another woman/women too) but to also be cheating with his sister-in-law?? Wow, that just breaks every rule in the book. This not only damages his marriage but also his whole family too. Not to mention the "family image" he worked so hard and to create. What a fake! But let me just put on record the amount of pathological behaviour, and duplicitous tactical skills it takes to carry out such a lie for EIGHT years. If only his skills had been as good on the pitch he might have been able to score for us against Barcelona a few weeks ago.
We now know Giggs is a pig in football boots - especially since today's rumour that he even tried it on with his Mother-in-Law too, what a charmer eh! - and we know that Imogen Thomas will have the "typical mistress story" to tell, but the woman I would love to hear from is his wife, Stacey Giggs. I'd LOVE to know why she is staying, just how she forgives a cheat at this level, as well as ask her if she 'really did NOT have a clue??'
Watch this space.
Peace and hugs all
Sarah J x
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
The 13 Steps of the Mistresses Anonymous Program.
The 13 Steps and traditions of the Mistresses Anonymous Program.
1. You admit you have a problem - That your life is out of control due to living as a mistress in despair of her affair.
2. Fully commit to reclaiming your life from this skid row of relationships, from this toxic love & from the toxic married man.
3. Set goals to stop all communication with your MM (married man) and throw away everything that reminds you of him.
4. Make a list of all the things you have given up to be with your MM during the affair
5. Make inventory of all the lies he has told you and the empty promises he has made to you
6. Make a list of all the family and friends you have lied to and come clean to them
7. Attend MA meetings and find a sponsor to keep you strong
8. Actively monitor your goals. Empower yourself. Work hard to regain your personal power, self-respect and self-esteem.
9. Practice being single. Go on a date a week with a single guy
10. Fully commit to NEVER allowing yourself to being second best again!
11. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and wallowing in misery
12. Actively follow the 12 steps and share the MA message with others
13. Enjoy a nice cold glass of #13 (aka Chardonnay) you deserve it.
Saturday, May 7, 2011
Vancouver IS the Infidelity Capital of the World.
Well well well....I have only been here in Vancouver for a week, but I can certainly tell you that this city is a HOT BED of infidelity. I have been inundated with Sisters of the Mistresshood writing to me and coming to my Mistresses Anonymous meetings. With two MA meetings done, and two still to go in Downtown Vancouver tonight and tomorrow, we can certainly say that the Infidelity Analyst is being kept very busy. Who would have known that in Vancouver it's not a case of Sex and the City, but more like Infidelity and the City!!
I'm off to meet tons more sisters of the mistresshood at my MA meeting in a few hours. Lots are showing up tonight because they are free to, since typically - the life of a Mistress - means you are always available and alone on Saturday nights! Update you all soon.
Keep the faith
Canadian cuddles
Sarah xox
I'm off to meet tons more sisters of the mistresshood at my MA meeting in a few hours. Lots are showing up tonight because they are free to, since typically - the life of a Mistress - means you are always available and alone on Saturday nights! Update you all soon.
Keep the faith
Canadian cuddles
Sarah xox
Monday, May 2, 2011
Greetings from Vancouver...
Sisters of Vancouver, hello!!!
I hope you will all tune in to "The Dr. Phil Show" tomorrow and Wednesday, broadcast here on CTV channel, where you will see some of our very brave sisters of the mistresshood telling their stories. I'd love to hear from any of you, both in Canada and America, who would like to be a part of other TV show's I am doing, as well as let me know if you are interested in me coming to your city and State to rescue YOU from living the life of "A Mistress!"
Write to me in confidence and I will reply personally.
Keep the faith
Hugs,
Sarah x
I hope you will all tune in to "The Dr. Phil Show" tomorrow and Wednesday, broadcast here on CTV channel, where you will see some of our very brave sisters of the mistresshood telling their stories. I'd love to hear from any of you, both in Canada and America, who would like to be a part of other TV show's I am doing, as well as let me know if you are interested in me coming to your city and State to rescue YOU from living the life of "A Mistress!"
Write to me in confidence and I will reply personally.
Keep the faith
Hugs,
Sarah x
Thursday, April 21, 2011
Va Va Voom Vancouver!
Calling all sisters of the Mistress-hood in Canada...
Infidelity Expert and infamous ex-mistress, Sarah Symonds will be in Vancouver on May 5, 6, 7 & 8 to host Canada’s first “Mistresses Anonymous” workshops
Sarah has been featured on Oprah, The Dr. Phil Show, The View and Larry King Live to share her experiences and discuss how mistresses can break free from the despair of an affair
Vancouver, BC April, 2011– UK based author, broadcaster, journalist, and the world’s first and only “Infidelity Analyst,” Sarah Symonds, will be in Vancouver to host a series of free “Mistresses Anonymous” workshops, the first of their kind in Canada. The workshops will offer mistresses life-changing advice based on Sarah’s own personal experiences, and give them the tools to help them break free from their toxic relationships. Sarah would like to extend an invitation to women trapped in affairs with married men across the lower mainland to attend her confidential workshops in Vancouver, Burnaby and Surrey on May 5, 6, 7, & 8. The day before the workshops kick-off, you can catch Sarah’s latest network television appearance on “The Doctor Phil Show” on May 4th.
Following her groundbreaking appearance on the “Oprah Winfrey Show” in 2008, Symonds has appeared regularly on the popular shows “The Dr. Phil Show,” and “Larry King Live,” plus “The View,” “Dateline NBC,” “What Would You Do?,” to name a few. Sarah’s hard-hitting, straight-edge approach makes her hot property on the talk-show circuit and she is frequently called upon by the news media to comment when stories break about celebrity marriages being rocked by affairs and sex-scandals.
From London to Los Angeles, Sarah has worked with numerous mistresses by offering support, advice and a safe haven for women to discuss their experiences in a confidential, non-judgmental environment. Known for her own high-profile celebrity affairs, Sarah, the now reformed “other woman,” has vowed to help other women trapped in similar circumstances. Sarah states, “I know all too well the heartache and frustration that comes from living a double life as the girlfriend of a married man. I’ve made it my mission to help the sisters of the mistress-hood break free.”
Sarah’s first book, the controversial self-help manual “Having an Affair? A Handbook for the Other Woman” attracted huge media attention in 2007, making her a real life “Dear Amy” overnight success. Since then, Sarah has cultivated a massive following of women, all seeking her advice on complex relationships. She continues to stir the minds of millions of women with questions on how to get out of toxic relationships.
In addition to managing her “Mistresses Anonymous Support Group,” Sarah has hosted her own weekly LA radio show, “Between the Sheets,” which she created, wrote and co-produced. Sarah also writes a relationship advice blog called “Pillow Talk” and is currently penning her memoirs, as well as writing her next self-help book.
For more information or to reserve a seat at the free Mistresses Anonymous workshop, please visit www.MistressesAnonymous.com .
Sarah Symonds is available for interviews in Vancouver May 2nd – 4th. Prior to these dates, Sarah is available for interview by phone from the U.K. For more information and to schedule an interview, please contact:
Lesley Diana – The Promotion People lesley@thepromotionpeople.ca 604-726-5575
Infidelity Expert and infamous ex-mistress, Sarah Symonds will be in Vancouver on May 5, 6, 7 & 8 to host Canada’s first “Mistresses Anonymous” workshops
Sarah has been featured on Oprah, The Dr. Phil Show, The View and Larry King Live to share her experiences and discuss how mistresses can break free from the despair of an affair
Vancouver, BC April, 2011– UK based author, broadcaster, journalist, and the world’s first and only “Infidelity Analyst,” Sarah Symonds, will be in Vancouver to host a series of free “Mistresses Anonymous” workshops, the first of their kind in Canada. The workshops will offer mistresses life-changing advice based on Sarah’s own personal experiences, and give them the tools to help them break free from their toxic relationships. Sarah would like to extend an invitation to women trapped in affairs with married men across the lower mainland to attend her confidential workshops in Vancouver, Burnaby and Surrey on May 5, 6, 7, & 8. The day before the workshops kick-off, you can catch Sarah’s latest network television appearance on “The Doctor Phil Show” on May 4th.
Following her groundbreaking appearance on the “Oprah Winfrey Show” in 2008, Symonds has appeared regularly on the popular shows “The Dr. Phil Show,” and “Larry King Live,” plus “The View,” “Dateline NBC,” “What Would You Do?,” to name a few. Sarah’s hard-hitting, straight-edge approach makes her hot property on the talk-show circuit and she is frequently called upon by the news media to comment when stories break about celebrity marriages being rocked by affairs and sex-scandals.
From London to Los Angeles, Sarah has worked with numerous mistresses by offering support, advice and a safe haven for women to discuss their experiences in a confidential, non-judgmental environment. Known for her own high-profile celebrity affairs, Sarah, the now reformed “other woman,” has vowed to help other women trapped in similar circumstances. Sarah states, “I know all too well the heartache and frustration that comes from living a double life as the girlfriend of a married man. I’ve made it my mission to help the sisters of the mistress-hood break free.”
Sarah’s first book, the controversial self-help manual “Having an Affair? A Handbook for the Other Woman” attracted huge media attention in 2007, making her a real life “Dear Amy” overnight success. Since then, Sarah has cultivated a massive following of women, all seeking her advice on complex relationships. She continues to stir the minds of millions of women with questions on how to get out of toxic relationships.
In addition to managing her “Mistresses Anonymous Support Group,” Sarah has hosted her own weekly LA radio show, “Between the Sheets,” which she created, wrote and co-produced. Sarah also writes a relationship advice blog called “Pillow Talk” and is currently penning her memoirs, as well as writing her next self-help book.
For more information or to reserve a seat at the free Mistresses Anonymous workshop, please visit www.MistressesAnonymous.com .
Sarah Symonds is available for interviews in Vancouver May 2nd – 4th. Prior to these dates, Sarah is available for interview by phone from the U.K. For more information and to schedule an interview, please contact:
Lesley Diana – The Promotion People lesley@thepromotionpeople.ca 604-726-5575
Friday, March 11, 2011
A Mistress in Wife's clothing....
Sisters
I have an amazing story that I just have to share. Talk about truth being stranger than fiction.
Ok, so, a friend of mine recounted a story about the time when she went away with her married lover. For the sake of this story, lets say they went to the Caribbean (it was pretty close.) My friend - the mistress - lets call her Jane, had jumped at the chance to go away with her man, lets call him Bob. And although Bob was actually travelling on business, like many of these randy married men, he had taken Jane with him on expenses. As their plane touched down, Bob told her that his friend, a work peer, was picking them up at the airport and that he'd really appreciate if she could 'pretend she was his wife.' His wife was short, homely, and overweight (Jane had seen the photos) and Jane was anything but!!! However, as any mistress will tell you, it's all about covering for your man, so she went along with it.
That night, Jane and Bob joined the friend and HIS wife for dinner at a local restaurant. Bob had pleaded with Jane not to give the game away, and dutifully she sat there all night pretending to be Bob's wife, talking about THEIR two kids, and saying all the right things (*Note to readers, what a cad to make her do that, and to belittle his wife in that way at the same time!). She says the evening went well, as well as could be expected when you are impersonating someone else I guess. Jane recalls that the friend's wife was pleasant, although a little boring.
The NEXT night, said friend invited them out to dinner again, but this time meets them first for a drink and takes Jane to one side, begging her to do him a favour. Are you ready? He wanted to tell her that this night it would be his mistress - not his wife - joining them, and he begged her to be ok with it. Seems the begging was becoming a pattern! Jane can handle most things and is not very shock-able, but now she was impersonating a wife, when she was really a mistress, and was about to have dinner with a man and his mistress, while only having met his wife the night before. Can we say complicated??!!
Jane and the mistress got on great. Well of COURSE they would eh!! They were both having an affair with a married man, yet Jane had to keep quiet about her part in that. She tells me the mistress was half the wife's age and totally stunning. Throughout the rest of the trip, the man kept thanking Jane for her discretion, while telling her he just WISHED he had the type of marriage that she and Bob had so that he wouldn't have had to take a mistress on. Meanwhile, Jane was pleading with Bob to put the guy out of his misery by telling him the truth about them, and that Bob was just the same as him, that Jane too was his bit on the side. But no, Bob kept his lips glued tight.
Fast forward a year or so, and this friend came to London on business. Bob felt he should repay his courtesy from the trip, but this is where it gets awkward. This time, on home turf, Bob's REAL wife had to be invited along for dinner, meaning Bob FINALLY had to come clean to his friend before they all met up. Ironically, Jane and Bob had finished their affair around the same time. Jane contacting the friend - as all mistresses generally do - and telling him how awkward she'd felt at lying during the trip, and how relieved she now was that he knew the truth. The guy, who by now had met Bob's REAL wife, went on to tell her that Jane and the wife could not be more different!! Yet til this day, Bob is STILL married, STILL professing to be a good husband, and STILL seeing Jane on and off (but now its totally on her terms and when it suits her to do so!).
For any of you who have read my book, you might like to know that Jane, is actually Mistress B....
To be continued...
Peace
Sarah J x
I have an amazing story that I just have to share. Talk about truth being stranger than fiction.
Ok, so, a friend of mine recounted a story about the time when she went away with her married lover. For the sake of this story, lets say they went to the Caribbean (it was pretty close.) My friend - the mistress - lets call her Jane, had jumped at the chance to go away with her man, lets call him Bob. And although Bob was actually travelling on business, like many of these randy married men, he had taken Jane with him on expenses. As their plane touched down, Bob told her that his friend, a work peer, was picking them up at the airport and that he'd really appreciate if she could 'pretend she was his wife.' His wife was short, homely, and overweight (Jane had seen the photos) and Jane was anything but!!! However, as any mistress will tell you, it's all about covering for your man, so she went along with it.
That night, Jane and Bob joined the friend and HIS wife for dinner at a local restaurant. Bob had pleaded with Jane not to give the game away, and dutifully she sat there all night pretending to be Bob's wife, talking about THEIR two kids, and saying all the right things (*Note to readers, what a cad to make her do that, and to belittle his wife in that way at the same time!). She says the evening went well, as well as could be expected when you are impersonating someone else I guess. Jane recalls that the friend's wife was pleasant, although a little boring.
The NEXT night, said friend invited them out to dinner again, but this time meets them first for a drink and takes Jane to one side, begging her to do him a favour. Are you ready? He wanted to tell her that this night it would be his mistress - not his wife - joining them, and he begged her to be ok with it. Seems the begging was becoming a pattern! Jane can handle most things and is not very shock-able, but now she was impersonating a wife, when she was really a mistress, and was about to have dinner with a man and his mistress, while only having met his wife the night before. Can we say complicated??!!
Jane and the mistress got on great. Well of COURSE they would eh!! They were both having an affair with a married man, yet Jane had to keep quiet about her part in that. She tells me the mistress was half the wife's age and totally stunning. Throughout the rest of the trip, the man kept thanking Jane for her discretion, while telling her he just WISHED he had the type of marriage that she and Bob had so that he wouldn't have had to take a mistress on. Meanwhile, Jane was pleading with Bob to put the guy out of his misery by telling him the truth about them, and that Bob was just the same as him, that Jane too was his bit on the side. But no, Bob kept his lips glued tight.
Fast forward a year or so, and this friend came to London on business. Bob felt he should repay his courtesy from the trip, but this is where it gets awkward. This time, on home turf, Bob's REAL wife had to be invited along for dinner, meaning Bob FINALLY had to come clean to his friend before they all met up. Ironically, Jane and Bob had finished their affair around the same time. Jane contacting the friend - as all mistresses generally do - and telling him how awkward she'd felt at lying during the trip, and how relieved she now was that he knew the truth. The guy, who by now had met Bob's REAL wife, went on to tell her that Jane and the wife could not be more different!! Yet til this day, Bob is STILL married, STILL professing to be a good husband, and STILL seeing Jane on and off (but now its totally on her terms and when it suits her to do so!).
For any of you who have read my book, you might like to know that Jane, is actually Mistress B....
To be continued...
Peace
Sarah J x
Friday, January 7, 2011
Mistresses Anonymous meeting in LA
Yo, all sisters of the mistress-hood, due to popular demand I am planning to host a live MA meeting in LA in a few weeks. Please write to me if you'd like to attend. Even if you are from outer state, we might be able to arrange something. Contact me in confidence on sarah@havinganaffairthebook.com or just leave a comment here too.
Keep the faith
Hugs
Sarah J. x
Keep the faith
Hugs
Sarah J. x
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