tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post4579459685261658899..comments2023-03-12T08:40:19.226-07:00Comments on "Pillow Talk" with Sarah J. Symonds: Mistresses AnonymousSarah J. Symondshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15827955026666958002noreply@blogger.comBlogger51125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-34746957058560453722012-11-25T14:30:13.823-08:002012-11-25T14:30:13.823-08:00
prophetsalifu@gmail.com is really a truthful spel...<br />prophetsalifu@gmail.com is really a truthful spell caster and so powerful and he is the most powerful spell caster that i have ever met. i wish i have met him before. my husband just came back to me and every thing happened just the way prophet SALIFU said, i am so happy that i have met with prophet and now i have my husband back to my self. if you need your lover back, use his spell and dont doubt his powers i have tested him and i am now a fulfilled womancoreynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-88375283482800537582012-10-03T17:15:11.521-07:002012-10-03T17:15:11.521-07:00hey sisters
I've been seeing a guy, Sergei f...hey sisters <br /><br />I've been seeing a guy, Sergei for the past 7 years, however he has been married for the last 10 years. he didn't adapt well to married life well. We met at a sex toy convention in Cincinnati and have been lovers ever since. One time we were having sex and his wife came home so i had to hide in the closet, But then she saw him laying in bed and quickly joined him. I watched for like 45 minutes and was jealous of her the whole time. this other time he was eating sushi off my naked body and his wife came home again. This time i didn't want to hide and she caught us on the kitchen table. She was shocked at first but when she calmed down she asked me a question. She wanted to spice up her marriage and asked if she minded having a bit. Later she talked to us about having a three-way relationship. I was just wondering if anyone here has ever experienced that and know if they work out or not?<br />peace bitches <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-43037232650094592812012-06-20T11:09:54.019-07:002012-06-20T11:09:54.019-07:00Sarah,
its good to see this format for women to r...Sarah,<br /><br />its good to see this format for women to read other first person stories. It is very much like a support group giving first hand information to take what one needs and move on. <br />Some day, we women will stop attacking each other and stop blaming women and burning them at the stake. Why does mankind point the finger at the smarter sex? Because some are insecure and need to blame HER for she is wiser :))<br />The overall feeling I get when watching the DR. PHIL show during your features, is that , still, women are burned at the stake for the acts of men. Thank you for being there for us gals. I wish you well...<br /><br />Good Job!!<br /><br />PrincessAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-71655650736694473442010-12-08T20:06:37.825-08:002010-12-08T20:06:37.825-08:00A man who commits adultry lacks judgement; whoever...A man who commits adultry lacks judgement; whoever does so destroys himself- Poverbs 6:32<br /><br />This is the truth everyone, sad but true! Looking in the bible for answers was like looking in the mirror! I gave all my confusion and pain to God and he in return gave me once again a happy heart and filled it with peace and joy as i hope and trust in him. I wish I would have known God's word before it was too late, I would have made different choices based on God's word and not merely on what my flesh desired after becoming corrupt through lust and desires that sprang from illusion. If you don't know God's word, then you won't know how to tell when you're under satan's attack as he steals your life from you right before your very eyes! come on people, listen to what I'm saying. Look it up for yourselves, or will you have to be brought to your knees first? You are all in my prayers, good luck and God Bless...Aimeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133817112493019158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-26496732439964184102010-09-30T01:13:30.054-07:002010-09-30T01:13:30.054-07:00Hi sarah
Im writing to you as I just saw inside in...Hi sarah<br />Im writing to you as I just saw inside infedelity 3 with dr Phil here in Denmark. This is the first time I ever blog. But I just felt so bad for you with all the people putting you down. I dont agree in being a mistress or cheating and have ever done so myself. But you bring up some good points with how to keep the man happy and it seems like most women are in denial and all their hatred towards threats (other women) seemed to hit you cause you are honest. In denmark we are very open about sex and love and talk about it alot. It seems like its a tabu in the US (?) to talk about your desires, biology and anythimg that can ruin the "right way of thinkin". I totally agreed with you on that its a work to keep your partner, you need to keep yourself hot (so does he), have good sex, laughter and communication. Well, I just wrote cause I felt bad for you. I thought you said the truth and people wouldnt hear it as its like facing their demons. (as said before i have never cheated and I dont think I have ever been cheated on). I also do hope that you find someone speciel in your life. Regards LivAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-8336188069478020912010-09-18T10:12:33.284-07:002010-09-18T10:12:33.284-07:00But Cottage Mistress, you have ALLOWED yourself to...But Cottage Mistress, you have ALLOWED yourself to fall in love with him, so the responsibility to be happy is on you here. I mean, you are making his marriage a lot better for sure, sending home a happier more satisfied man and all that.<br /><br />I'd never advise falling in love with a married man. It's like slow release poison, but, you have a choice. We all do.<br /><br />Wishing you luck and hopefully some happiness<br />Sarah J xsarah J. Symondsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-37171947319371937882010-09-18T10:12:32.303-07:002010-09-18T10:12:32.303-07:00But Cottage Mistress, you have ALLOWED yourself to...But Cottage Mistress, you have ALLOWED yourself to fall in love with him, so the responsibility to be happy is on you here. I mean, you are making his marriage a lot better for sure, sending home a happier more satisfied man and all that.<br /><br />I'd never advise falling in love with a married man. It's like slow release poison, but, you have a choice. We all do.<br /><br />Wishing you luck and hopefully some happiness<br />Sarah J xsarah J. Symondsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-64093821035587796112010-09-15T13:36:18.403-07:002010-09-15T13:36:18.403-07:00Sarah
Sometimes it's easy, sometimes it's...Sarah<br /><br />Sometimes it's easy, sometimes it's not. While I don't mind living on my own, in fact I value my time to myself, I would like to see more of him, meet his friends, get to know his kids. I'm an adult, I've made my decisions and I have to live with it - or move on. I'm just not there yet. If I wasn't in love it would be so much easier.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-80989131398323065592010-09-15T04:23:56.973-07:002010-09-15T04:23:56.973-07:00Well "cottage mistress" since you and th...Well "cottage mistress" since you and the wife know about each other what's the problem? It's not cheating anymore on his part, and it sounds like you are all getting the best out of the situation no? He certainly is. <br /><br />Sarah J xsarah J. Symondsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-56938989239188497302010-09-14T17:23:50.035-07:002010-09-14T17:23:50.035-07:00God. Not to be alone in this.
I'm in an open...God. Not to be alone in this.<br /><br />I'm in an open relationship, in the mistress role I suppose since he doesn't live with me. She and I talk and while we aren't friends we are friendly. It's complicated, crazy complicated. I'm 48, twice divorced and 2.5 years ago I met this amazing man online. I know now I was a fool for buying his excuses for not being around but sometimes when we're in love we're stupid, we believe what we want to believe. <br /><br />We had a wonderful day today at his cottage, doing chores in the morning, lunch, a bath, a nap but when we parted ways at the end of the day it was heart wrenching. <br /><br />I know I'm meandering here, I've never really talked about this. My best friends know but I don't complain to them because they just don't understand. It would be so easy if I could just shut off all these feelings but I'm in love for the first time in my life and I'm not ready to give that up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-76838530484278085822010-09-02T20:27:05.021-07:002010-09-02T20:27:05.021-07:00The Dr Phil show just aired in Australia. Good on ...The Dr Phil show just aired in Australia. Good on you. I was in an abusive and loveless marriage for 23 years. Since my husband left I have slept with a few married men. Most have been honest about their relationship. I know how hard it is to leave a spouse. Sometimes they just need that bit extra. Marriage goes through stages and after a while you stop talking to each other. Stop being as close. A couple of the men I've been with have thanked me for saving their marriage. They learn how to communicate with their partners. I've even had one wife thank me also. We all have needs.<br />I cheated on my husband when I was 18. The guy knew I was married. I see it as just sex. There's no real emotional feelings. <br />I'm now with a wonderful single guy who knows my past. We are very happy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-49645870688849648832010-09-02T19:54:18.064-07:002010-09-02T19:54:18.064-07:00Dr Phil was way out of line on his show. He was u...Dr Phil was way out of line on his show. He was unable to be objective about the issue, and imposed his own standards on the people there. Dr Phil, you are not God.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-26709890394213908882010-09-02T19:52:38.765-07:002010-09-02T19:52:38.765-07:00Self-righteous wives amaze me. The pattern both on...Self-righteous wives amaze me. The pattern both on the Dr Phil show and in this blog is the same. Wives are looking for someone else to blame for their own shortcomings, selfishness and ignorance. First of all, let me state - the only difference between you and the mistress is that you got the guy to put a ring on it, through whatever manipulative games you played - from your "come-here-go-away" games to unplanned (for him) pregnancy. You obviously found him charming and attractive - what makes you think this only worked on you? Secondly, the fools who tout the "if you're so great, why doesn't he leave his wife!?" theme - I have one word for you. Money. You trapped him into a marriage he regrets (actions speaking louder than words!) but by the empirical nature of the cheating husband, he is too selfish to lose money or control. The fact is, you are with the wrong man, honey - married or not. And if you're not woman enough to leave a cheating husband - YOU are the ones who are insecure. Get over your self-righteousness!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-82560006215818383932010-08-04T15:01:16.070-07:002010-08-04T15:01:16.070-07:00Another great book!! Hi sisters, I highly recommen...Another great book!! Hi sisters, I highly recommend the new book How to Kill a Princess by Angela DeVere It completely changed my life and how I look at relationships. It teaches you that you must first learn how to be happy alone before you can truly be happy with someone else. So many of us sisters use men to fill a void and it is simply never enough. This book is funny, raw, honest and contains fun tests at the end of each chapter that you can apply to yourself and the men you are dating.. Every woman should read this book!!! It doesn't just tell you how, it tells you why, and everything in between...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-41842717136101573372010-04-11T17:51:23.206-07:002010-04-11T17:51:23.206-07:00hi, i am so glad there is someone i can talk to. I...hi, i am so glad there is someone i can talk to. I haven't been able to reveal my true feelings to anyone, at least no one that would understand the position i am in. I am having an affair with an MM and i want to leave. I am 16 and i lost my virginity to him. Men have told me they loved me before and i would just brush it off, but this seemed different. Therefore, i let myself succumb to flirtation and infatuation. His wife recently found out and i feel terrible. I am just starting my life i don't need this pressure of guilt from some woman in the world telling her children that i sperated their family. As statistics say, women with sexual issues or addictions come with father complexs. Consequently, i know what it is like to grow up without a father, i don't want others to feel this way because of my doing. he believes he loves me but now i just want to take everything back. I want this to have never happened. If their marriage falls apart i don't want to be a part of it. I don't want anything to do with them. but i can't just let it going knowing i have done damage. What should i do? please.......Janenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-38415598442241441372010-03-16T06:24:44.971-07:002010-03-16T06:24:44.971-07:00Dear Nailsdeb
Poor communication from a man's...Dear Nailsdeb<br /><br />Poor communication from a man's side is usually a sign that he is not committed to what he is telling you. Be aware that you are not expecting more from his separation than he is actually telling you. It sounds like you decided to get divorced after so long anyway, i.e. not because you met him? If that's the case stay true to your mission. But beware of your expectations of this man and his true intentions. Always beware that he may be telling you he is separating/divorcing, and using you as his bit on the side, yet may never intend to go through with it.<br /><br />The only way to deal with his poor communication skills is to talk to HIM about it. Tell him how it makes you feel, and how you would like the communication to be. Better to find out now if he is hiding something, or can at least up his game on communicating.<br /><br />Good luck. Keep me posted and thanks for writing.<br />Sarah J xSarah J. Symondsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-50003156511493647142010-03-15T17:43:41.641-07:002010-03-15T17:43:41.641-07:00Thank you for your blog....so so helpful. I have ...Thank you for your blog....so so helpful. I have been in a 28 year marriage and have started the process of separation. Meanwhile I have needs. I found a great guy who was separated we have been seeing each other for about 3 months. We fell hard for each other and have fallen in love. He sees a future with me....we are both working on our separations / divorces. Meanwhile....I am having difficulty with the ground rules. Often he will go days with no communication....I need to plan our time together ahead. He is more casual .....this is difficult. Any tips...????Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03388052189140775763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-55545890311035346032009-12-11T02:59:12.985-08:002009-12-11T02:59:12.985-08:00Dear anonymous MM with 'troubled mistress'...Dear anonymous MM with 'troubled mistress' who left the above comment...see my blog today - it's all about YOU and men like you. My comments to you are on my blog too. Please leave any comments for me on today's blog entry not this one. Thanks and thanks for sharing; I was wondering what to blog about today! My mistresses are going to enjoy talking to YOU!<br /><br />Best<br />Sarah J.sarah J. Symondsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-1046400508213344242009-12-10T20:45:23.059-08:002009-12-10T20:45:23.059-08:00I'm the MM and in a relationship for 2 years w...I'm the MM and in a relationship for 2 years with a now single woman. WHen I met her, she was also married, but wasn't happy and subsequently got divorced about a year into our relationship. I was always clear with her before her divorce that I couldn't leave my kids and get divorced, but she got divorced anyway, stating it had nothing to do with me. Now, 2 years later, she is troubled because I am still living with the wife and kids and she is divorced and not living with me. We both are very much in love, and at this point, I want to leave my situation for her, however, a divorce is not in the cards financially at this time. Its a very difficult situation for both of us I think. I am sure other MM struggle with this issue because they don't want to screw up their kids lives also. The women in this blog seem to find blame with the MM for not throwing his kids under the bus and moving in with the mistress. But what kind of man can just forget about his kids and do that without a thought???? Would the mistress really want a guy that could easily dump his family for his mistress? I think not. <br /><br />I have read in this blog that the stats for the MM and the mistress ending up together is extremely low. I don't think that is true. 50% of marriages end in divorce anyway. I can see being very happy with the woman i am involved in, as soon as I can figure out a divorce settlement. Afterall, the MM is with the mistress for a reason! <br /><br />Some people in this blog have pointed out the MM will not marry the mistress because of the 80/20 rule. I think that is silly. From my perspective, a MM is looking outside his marriage for a companion that actually gives a damn and doesn't take him for granted. That goes for in the bed and out! If the MM finds good companionship in and out of the bedroom, the wife is done! Maybe not today or tomorrow, but within the near future. <br /><br />So for all those thinking the mistress has no chance, I dare say, they are dead wrong. The mistress plays the most important part in the MM life, and the MM will do everything in his power to eventually end up with the mistress. THis may not be true for all men, but it makes sense for most normal, intelligent men.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-10641859606487671312009-12-09T17:58:12.423-08:002009-12-09T17:58:12.423-08:00It's great to know I can vent thru this blog. ...It's great to know I can vent thru this blog. I need someone I can email on a daily basis who would be willing to help me and guide me through this difficult journey. I'm trying to break away from my MM. We've been together for 10 years.I struggle everyday. I'm on my 11th day of no communication and starting to lose the strength to carry on. I have tried this many times before and failed. <br /><br />Please will someone with a similar experience talk to me on a regular basis? I'm losing my mind but would like to do the right thing. I've been hurt so many times and want out!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-58448990966262638042009-12-07T21:27:53.285-08:002009-12-07T21:27:53.285-08:00These comments are so difficult to read. I have be...These comments are so difficult to read. I have been married 26 years and 2 years ago re-found my first love via the internet. I was in love with him in college and never quit thinking of him. He is married with 2 grown kids, I still have 2 kids at home. He says he was happily married until we re-connected. We see each other weekly and communicate daily. <br />I know he will not leave his family for a relationship with me. I have one foot out the door of my unsatisfying marriage and know I will be alone and he will still be married. Intellectually I know I should leave. but thrive on the level of communication and proclaimed love we have. I always knew, from many years ago, that he and I weren't done. It is a very difficult situation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-21676706154867633522009-11-18T14:11:49.222-08:002009-11-18T14:11:49.222-08:00I am married, and began a relationship with a MM w...I am married, and began a relationship with a MM whom I had known from years ago. I can only say that, for me, I got involved with him because I wasn't getting the attention and appreciation I wanted at home. I knew better, but I did it because he made me feel good. It ended for many reasons. Both of our spouses became suspicious, and I became pregnant. These affairs start as fun and exciting, but end in heartache, regardless. I was forced to make a decision I never thought I would be faced with, and everyday it's a decisions that I replay in my mind, wondering if I made the right choice. The MM and I even tried to be "friends" after all that, but it didn't work because, as my mom always told me, "you can't go back to just holding hands." Be careful ladies if tempted, I can't think of any of these affairs that ends happily.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-10468390447471052352009-11-11T12:54:46.902-08:002009-11-11T12:54:46.902-08:00I also am a married women who has learned enough t...I also am a married women who has learned enough to have some say! I have been married for close to twenty years now and was cheated on by my young husband, I was devastated has I felt I sacrificed allot with him in the beginning and really tried hard to make him happy. Not only did he cheat on me but also got her pregnant. I was devastated and was told almost into my ninth month of pregnancy and her's too. For years I though I could someday get over it and come to terms and I too hated the other women. As time went on after 15 years he contacted her then a year later he had another affair with a other women, who I never seen or met to date. The hate I had for him was so real but yet I was grieving and believe it or not someone else took notice in me right at that moment. This person made me feel good, strong and wanted a "platonic relationship" I didn't even know what that meant at the time, That person is Married ...but could relate to me as he was cheated on as well, so as he summed it up we had something in common, it took 6 month and dating, talking before we when over the line so to speak, I was in such turmoil for what I had done to me, my self worth, my morals I wanted to end my life, he was good at helping me see that I was hurting no one as "they had no heart in our relationship and our love was real" sad to say 2 1/2 years have gone by we are still seeing eachother, though not as much and I still do not have the strenght to break it off with either, the other man or my husband. I will tell all married women and mistresses this....it could happen to anyone of you and it probably will someday so don't judge! I think those who are involved one way or another are suffering enough.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-91844767897914808382009-10-20T11:57:56.029-07:002009-10-20T11:57:56.029-07:00I have been involved with a MM for almost 2 yrs. n...I have been involved with a MM for almost 2 yrs. now and it gets harder and harder every time I see him, to let him go. I know that it's wrong and that I deserve so much better, but it's kinda like an addiction. I was married for over 20 yrs and am not looking for that kind of relationship,but I am looking for something more than what I have with my MM. He's 13 yrs. my junior and is very attractive, he has 2 kids and his WIFE does not work, so trust me, I know that he is not going anywhere. I am so much in control of my life except when it comes to my MM then I lose my mind...! I WANT OUT....!!!!! but it's so hard to let him go?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4470959016347624607.post-82617145858149669792009-10-18T08:49:32.686-07:002009-10-18T08:49:32.686-07:00Hi
I've just found this website after a friend...Hi<br />I've just found this website after a friend of mine gave me a recent article from a magazine entitled "being the 'other woman' is it ever really worth it?". I have been seeing my MM for a year now, he lives at the other end of the country and vists me when he's on business in my area. I swore at first I wouldn't fall in love, but as time has gone on we are very much in love and I'm devastated when he leaves and I never know when I'll see him again. I couldn't agree more with Sarah, it's the most heart shattering experience. I live alone, have joined dating sites etc, but wont give any other man a chance while my hearts with the MM. The prospect of Christmas ahead without him fills me with dread. I know I have to end it and intend reading Sarah's book in the hopes that it'll make it easier. I never knew being the "other woman" would be so hard.<br />Incidentally, my ex husband had an affair for 25 years of our 30 year marriage. When I found out about it I hated her and would spit her name out with such venom, but I now totally understand the anguish and hurt and frustration that she must have been going through all of those years. I never imagined I would be in her position and dont want to be feeling like this for the next 20 years. My friends are very concerned about me, hence the article.....I hope this is a turning point for me, thank youAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com